Today marks 9 years of being married to my best friend!!! Philip asked me to marry him in December of 2002. In FIVE short months we were hitched, with a GRAND wedding and reception that we celebrated with amazing family and friends! How in the world was that NINE years ago? Man, a lot can change and it can change right in front of your eyes! It seems just like yesterday that I fell in love with Philip Payne!
Philip's friends teased him that I was wired with a headset and microphone (think J-LO) and just waiting for that RING to declare all systems "GO"! The joke is on them though--grown men saying this just proves they DID watch The Wedding Planner in 2001 that starred J LO and hottie, toddy Mathew MCConaughey. I didn't have a headset, but the planning did happen pretty fast and places opened up, so we went for it!
And "All systems did GO" as the most amazing wedding ever was thrown and pretty much planned out in its entirety in just a few short weeks! It is true. No offense people, but our wedding was THE. BEST. WEDDING. EVER. and our wedding was PROOF that you don't need a year to plan a wedding! Nonsense!! It is one of my most favorite memories! Thanks again to our parents for throwing a Fairy Tale wedding for us! It was amazing. And a day we will cherish always!
When Philip asked my dad if he could marry me, my dad said to Philip "You know what you are getting into, right?" He loves to tell this story, and I have heard this story repeated a few times. At least three times he has reminded me of this. My mom sent Philip a message today, on FB, wishing us a Happy Anniversary and she said something along the lines of thanking him for caring for me so well, blah, blah, blah and that she knows that I could be a handful at times. These people act like they know me.
I love it when Philip gets mad and says "he's gonna put his foot down"....it's so cute to tell a girl like me that. Really. It's sweet and, oh so funny. He still makes me laugh. Remember he was forewarned.
It took Philip Payne 4 years of being a "great friend" or "something like that" to figure out he NEEDED to marry me. He was scared of me, and probably rightfully so. I am stubborn, strong willed and relentless. I am also kind, bossy, devoted and loyal.
I like things to go "MY" way most of the time.
But then the preacher had to say all that stuff at our wedding about us now being "ONE."
So now, sometimes, we go "his" way.
"His" way, as in Philip gets his way from time to time.
And reflecting over the last nine years, we have gone "HIS" way A LOT.
"HIS", as in the Big guy upstairs's way.
"He" just let's me thing we are doing things "MY" way.
And by "He", I mean Philip and God.
It works for "us"!
And by "us", I mean "ME".
Thank you Lord for letting my "Best Friend" in the whole world be MY husband. Thanks for finally giving him the push to say the "M" word. We are soul mates and you have confirmed that hundreds of times to us. We need each other more than we need air. He us the most caring husband and an amazing father to our "littles" that a girl could ask for. And I have two amazing dads, and an amazing FATHER, so he had HIGH standards to fill. And he fits that bill perfectly.
I can't believe that we have been married NINE years today. We have three kids and I have NO stretch marks!!!! Our kiddos are 15, 13 and 5. We have moved homesteads twice. We have had three "job changes" and two of those were "career changes." We bought and sold a business. Philip went back to school. We have changed schools and recently have changed churches. We will have a third driver in our house later this year! AHH! We have already lived a lifetime in these 9 years! And it's not over yet!!!!! We remain open to God and his calling for whatever else he has planned for our family! (Breathe honey).
I will soon begin to share our story, or at least glimpses of it. God's plan has revealed many, many times and in many ways for our family. We want to share this journey because this is HIS story! We claim HIS glory to be exalted for all the blessings that he has bestowed upon this family and this life HE has allowed us to live! We give God the Glory for all things and we are open to receive the rest of HIS plans for our family! He is a redeemer in the darkest moments, clearly which we have witnessed, and have been called by HIM to help. We so easily could have said not now; Sorry, but that isn't how we see OUR life working out. I am so glad that we answered HIM when someone(s) needed us. At this chapter in our life there have been THREE someones that needed us. What we didn't know at the moment, was that we needed them so much more. We have three precious angels, handpicked, by God, brought through pain and suffering, and have been adopted into our family over the last EIGHT years.
Father to the fatherless, defender of widows--this is God, whose dwelling is Holy. God places the lonely in families. (Psalms 68:5-6)
Ten months after Philip and I were married, Philip tragically lost his older brother and sister-in-law. We were heart broken. Everyone was heart broken. There was blame passed around. Their was warfare at play. It was a hard day and days to come for both families who had lost so much so suddenly. The family had been torn apart. It wasn't pretty. It was messy. They left behind two precious and innocent children. Robby was 7 and Caitlin was 5. But God never, ever left those Angels. He was there protecting them and had a plan for him. We found ourselves very quickly to be blessed beyond measure to be part of that plan.
Fast forward six years later, Robby and I were playing and coloring with a sweet 3 year old boy who had just arrived at an orphanage in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Philip's heart softened to the call from our Father,and less than six months later, that little boy joined our family here in America. Mamo has been home with us now for 16 months.
I am so glad Philip Payne that you asked and that I said "I DO" on May 17, 2003!!!!
I can't imagine for a minute missing this amazing journey of living life that I get to do everyday with YOU!
You are my ROCK, my SOUL MATE, my POOKIE, my AIR and my BEST FRIEND!
Happy Anniversary Baby!!! She loves you even more than the day I said "I Do!